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What does a surrogacy journey actually cost?
A levels.fyi-style benchmark built from real anonymized cost sheets — six buckets, real medians, a downloadable estimate worksheet, and a filterable submissions table. Upload your own quote to see how it stacks up.
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Published · Phase 03
InsurancePhase 04May 29, 2026 · 12 min
The ins and outs of surrogacy insurance
The $30,000 Question to Ask Before Transfer
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Field notesPhase 02May 22, 2026 · 18 min
Hard lessons from nine months of surrogacy hell
We paid a $13,000 retainer to a respected agency. Nine months later, not one candidate. Here's what I wish someone had handed us on day one — about retainers, match fees, and who you can actually trust.
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Coming soon
ART Risk insurance evaluations explained
InsuranceEvaluating a surrogate candidate: a framework
MatchingClinic screening: hidden costs and the gatekeeper problem
ClinicReading your employer's family-forming benefit
BenefitsThe 'unhappy path' your agency is selling you
AgencyGoing independent without going alone
IndependentAgency contracts: what to look for, what's a red flag
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